I’ve provided sex and relationship counselling with individuals and partners for more than a decade and have expertise on many topics. I’m kink, 2SLGBTQ+, sex work, and poly-friendly. Here are a few examples of issues that I have worked through with many of my clients.

I have done training in several modalities including

• Emotionally Focused Therapy by Sue Johnson
• Internal Family Systems Therapy
• The Developmental Model through the Couples Institute
• Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real

Relationship discord and communication

• Helping partners to better understand each other’s needs and desires
• Identifying and interrupting the cycles/ patterns of arguments and misunderstandings
• Deepening intimacy and connection through new skills to support each other
• Differentiation of self so that each person can hear the other’s feelings and experiences and support them without feeling worse themselves as well (emotional contagion)

Individual challenges

• Anxiety, depression, substance use. trauma
• Understanding and taming the inner critic, addressing shame and low self-confidence

Physical aspects of sexual expression

• Orgasms (learning how to have them, how to make them more powerful, how to orgasm in new ways, multiple orgasms for folks of all sexes)
• Managing erections, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation
• Libido (how to boost it and how to work with a low libido/ differences in sexual desire within a partnership)
• Vaginismus and painful intercourse (how to help reduce the pain and how to keep sex great and pain-free)
• Lack of sexual pleasure
• Racing mind in anticipation of, during, and/ or after sexual connection
• Accelerators and brakes, ie things that turn us on as well as those that inhibit our sexual arousal

Communication and emotional issues affecting sexuality

• Creating the sex we want (uncovering latent desires, communicating preferences and feedback, negotiating sexual options)
• Deepening intimacy (creating closeness through deep sexual connection and appreciating differences that can enhance intimacy)
• Negotiating differences in desires and/or libido in relationships (navigating differences and creating mutually beneficial solutions)
• Keeping the spark alive (creative sex, nurturing passion, reviving sexual relationships, enhancing sexual pleasure)

Expanding erotic knowledge

• Tantric or spiritual sex (deepening connection through  ancient techniques adapted to each individual or couple’s personal spiritual comfort, practice and understanding)
• Techniques for better sex: oral, hand techniques, toys, anal pleasure, kink and bondage